Warren Alexander Mediation Services

1409 South Main Street
Stillwater, OK 74074
405.742.0699

Mediation is a process in which a neutral third party assists communication between two parties caught in conflict. Successful mediation involves both parties feeling heard and understood before creating a plan that can work for both sides. It is different than arbitration or a trial because the parties are in control at all times. A mediator may not force a participant to agree to something in a decree.

People prefer mediation because each party has a better chance of entering into a settlement getting what they want. When parties attend a trial, they are at the mercy of an adversarial process in which a judge must decide on important issues in the family’s life. Trials can be emotionally painful events in which accusations and allegations are made in open court which can be damaging to both parties. Avoidance of such an event is often what is in the best interest for healing and moving forward. An additional positive aspect of mediation is that when both parties agree to a settlement that each feel is reasonable, the likelihood of compliance with this settlement increases which translates into fewer court battles in the future. The result of this is more time and money being used to enhance a family’s living rather than their fighting.

Mediation is a solution for anyone struggling to reach a decision related to a difficult topic. Family and divorce mediation focuses on family disputes. Typical scenarios discussed include but are not limited to: divorcing partners with asset disputes or disputes related to children; never-married parents with disputes related to the children; grandparents with custody and visitation concerns, and same-sex partners with disputes related to children.

Family and divorce mediation can focus on a range of topics including physical custody of children, decision-making related to children by co parents, asset division, debt division, scheduling conflicts, holiday conflicts, step parent concerns, etc.

Whitney Warren-Alexander has been a therapist in the Stillwater area for many years. Her expertise in communication and conflict resolution as well as comfort with assisting high conflict parties to reach agreements are strengths that she brings to the world of mediation. In addition to these qualities, she possesses an understanding of human behavior that allows each party to feel heard and understood and de-escalates intense family situations so an agreement can be reached. She makes a direct distinction between therapy and mediation by assisting clients in creating goals from the beginning of the mediation related to reaching a settlement.

Please call to discuss your case and see if Whitney is the right mediator for your family issues.

If you want to make peace with your enemy, you have to work with your enemy. Then he becomes your partner.
— -Nelson Mandela, activist, South African president, Nobel Peace Prize (b. 1918)”